Before We Decide
A Gottman-Informed, Evidence-Based Approach
Grounded in the science-backed Gottman Method, this course helps couples interrupt repeating relationship dynamics and regain stability before making major decisions. Delivered one module per week, it’s designed to create meaningful shifts within 30 days — including reduced reactivity, clearer communication, and greater emotional safety. The focus isn’t on fixing each other, but on stabilising the dynamic so next steps can be made from clarity rather than crisis.
"These skills are designed to be practical, actionable, and supportive, allowing couples to work together at home, at their own pace, and with confidence. By integrating evidence-based techniques, couples can create positive change and better understand each other — all within a safe, self-guided framework.”
Evidence Based Strategies
What You’ll Learn
“In this course, you’ll gain evidence-based tools to:
• Stop repetitive arguments and communicate effectively
• Rebuild trust and emotional connection
• Navigate tough conversations with clarity and calm
• Make thoughtful decisions about the future of your relationship
• Practice guided exercises designed for couples to do together at home”
Why Choose This Course
“Unlike traditional therapy, this course gives couples:
• Privacy and flexibility to work at their own pace
• Tools to repair and stabilise their relationship immediately
• Evidence-based guidance rooted in proven Gottman principles
• Support for making decisions without external pressure
Take control of your relationship today — before you make any decisions.”
How It Works
“Before We Decide is entirely online and self-paced. Each module provides:
• Step-by-step exercises based on Gottman principles
• Reflection prompts to deepen understanding
• Practical strategies you can implement immediately in your relationship
You can work together or individually, in the comfort of your own home, without scheduling appointments or attending therapy sessions.”
Evidence-Based Strategies Inspired by Gottman Principles
Before We Decide incorporates practical strategies inspired by the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, pioneers in relationship science. While this is not formal therapy, the course draws on proven approaches to help couples:
• Improve communication and reduce conflict
• Strengthen emotional connection and trust
• Make thoughtful decisions about the future of their relationship
• Apply exercises and reflection tools in their daily life
Module 1: Stabilisation — Stop the Bleeding
Learn to identify destructive patterns like flooding, stonewalling, and criticism. Gain practical tools to pause conflicts and create simple safety agreements, reducing blow-ups and building a calmer, safer foundation.