RELATIONSHIPS . MINDSET. WELLBEING
If you’re not ready to walk away, but you’re not okay staying the same—Before We Decide gives you a way forward. Learn evidence-based tools to calm conflict, reconnect, and make a grounded decision about your relationship.
Grounded in the science-backed Gottman Method, this course helps couples interrupt repeating relationship dynamics and regain stability before making major decisions. Delivered one module per week, it’s designed to create meaningful shifts within 30 days — including reduced reactivity, clearer communication, and greater emotional safety. The focus isn’t on fixing each other, but on stabilising the dynamic so next steps can be made from clarity rather than crisis.
BEFORE WE DECIDE
I’m Stacie, founder of Mindset by Design
Dual-qualified Psychotherapist | Narrative & Mindset Coach | Gottman Trained
Guiding people to design their mindset from the inside out by disrupting the narratives, identities, and belief systems that shape how life is experienced in real time.
I believe unexamined narratives quietly erode agency and personal power by turning interpretation into truth. When those narratives are disrupted, choice, responsibility, and clarity become possible again.
I work with mindset and internal patterns that shape how people experience life, including relationships. I specialise in identifying recurring patterns of behaviour and demonstrating how they are generated and reinforced in real-time. My work integrates psychotherapy, neuroscience, and mindset-based approaches, and I offer self-guided mindset courses and short-term coaching for individuals who feel stuck in repeating patterns or fixed ways of seeing themselves or their lives.
If this resonates, this is what comes NEXT…
This guide is about awareness and safety.
The next step is structure.
Relationship Rehab – Before We Decide is an online course for couples who want to understand and change their relational dynamics from the inside out — before making big decisions.
It’s not about fixing each other.
It’s about learning how your nervous systems, attachment patterns, and communication loops interact — and how to interrupt what keeps repeating.
This course is for couples who are willing to slow things down, take responsibility, and begin creating safety first.
"Transformational with Heart"
Stacie’s approach is real, raw, and powerful. She helps you uncover the truth within yourself while making you laugh through the tough moments. She is a total game-changer.
"No Fluff, All Impact"
Stacie is the coach who gets straight to the heart of the matter while making it fun. Her therapeutic approach creates real change that sticks. This isn’t your average coaching experience!
"A Powerful Shift in Perspective"
Stacie helps you face your shame without blame. Through her unique approach, she makes what feels like a daunting experience into an empowering one. With humour and deep insight, she helps you transform shame into self-compassion, turning it from weight into a source of growth. It's not about blame; it's about liberation.
The Podcast
Welcome to Mindset by Design — the podcast that helps you design your life and relationships from the inside out. I’m Stacie Spiler, a mindset coach and psychotherapist, guiding you to disrupt limiting beliefs, rewire your thinking, and embody your highest, most empowered self.
No fluff. No excuses. Just real conversations and actionable tools to help you shift your mindset, maximise your life, and create the future you’re meant to live.
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Module 1: Stabilisation — Stop the Bleeding
Learn to identify destructive patterns like flooding, stonewalling, and criticism. Gain practical tools to pause conflicts and create simple safety agreements, reducing blow-ups and building a calmer, safer foundation.